Dale Carnegie thoughts about Freedom and Happiness

Dale Carnegie thoughts about Freedom and Happiness
When we were children, everything looks possible. Sprawling world and we see the future as a pleasant experience. We can do anything. I believe that life is an experience, and happiness is the natural state and where we should position. But we let a lot of things hinder our happiness and freedom. In our lives, we face many challenges and, unfortunately, too often we let these challenges get in the way we are.

Dale Carnegie is one of my favorite authors asatu. He really knows how challenging the journey we've been through, and it provides us with some guidelines to enter the area we're trying to enter. Here are a few pitfalls that he describe using words alone. The following traps can rob us of happiness and freedom if we let it.
State

"It's not what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy. But what you thought. "

When Viktor Frankl suffered deep agony when he was in the Nazi camp, he found that instead of the outside world that makes you feel happy or not; but what you think in your head. Frankl's point of view, which he wrote the book "Man's Search for Meaning" is that we are all responsible for our life experience. Of the Buddha who said "we are the result of our own thinking", to the Earl Nightingale in his book "The Strangest Secret" wrote that "you will be as you think", hundreds or even thousands of writers and thinkers have expressed the same thing. You are in control of yourself; so do not give your strength to others.
Criticism

"Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain - and most people do so."

People often criticize you because it makes the mistake of doing things or making mistakes. I used to accept criticism and take these criticisms seriously. But when I really accept the fact that I am not perfect and that I also made a mistake (at any time!) Just like everyone else in this world, my life changed. I became more confident, risk-taking, and most importantly, I stopped worrying.

When someone accused me of doing wrong, I usually say (at least to myself), 'Yes, I made a mistake. I am human and I'm not perfect. I'm forgetful, inconsistent, wrong time. But do you know? It's normal. You are allowed to do things that I mentioned earlier. 'And I also remember that anyone who accused me of actually being pointed to themselves.

Of course, we need to reflect and learn from our mistakes - make the same mistake over and over again is not a good thing - but receive the fragility and to forgive ourselves is an important point to be happy and successful. If we are too focused on things that can distract us; it is tantamount to wasting the advantages we have.
Fear

"Do the thing you fear to do and get on .. step is the fastest and best way to overcome fear. "

Just like the people in general, I feel afraid to speak in public. My heart was pounding, my mouth feels dry, my hands tremble and my skin feels moist. I do not think there are people who feel the fear I experienced when I had to speak in front of a group of people. I prefer dealing with a hungry lion than to speak in front of people a duration of 5 minutes. But I still have to do it because it is part of my job. At first it was very, very uncomfortable, but gradually I became used to it.

I tell you this to illustrate that fear is something that is not real - fear can be overcome. But the only way to overcome fear is to face it. You can live your life in fear, or overcome.

We all know that ultimately nothing we do that really means. In 100 years we will be dead and buried. In 1000 years no one has given us. In a million years the human race may have been destroyed. So we must utilize every day as long as there is no time! Do not let fear control you. Confront your fear; do what you fear and you will change your life.
Dream

"One of the tragic things I know about humans is that we tend to put off living. We envision a flower garden over the horizon and forget the roses blooming outside our windows today. "

Without dreams, life does not mean anything. It is a tragedy when most of us let life destroy our dreams. There are times when we are dreaming of big things and fantastic - a period that occurs when we feel all these things may happen, when we see beautiful things in the world. But the dream should lead us to a place. Dream could be a direction and can provide success and happiness if we follow our dreams with perseverance.

But often we become caught up in hallucinations. Today we prepare ourselves for tomorrow, and the actions and thoughts today shape our future, but live in the future it is not an option if we want to feel happy. If we used to live in a magic flower garden as told by Dale Carnegie, then when we got there, we will not recognize the place and we will not enjoy the results we achieve.

When we look back on all the experience we have experienced, we only have ourselves to be thanked, or for the wronged, for all the happiness and freedom that we achieve. Basically we have only ourselves. But the reality is not always like that - we can learn from others who have experienced what we went through and let them lead us.