Self Confidence Building

Self Confidence Building is quite simply the ongoing process of bolstering your self esteem and self concept. You see, the degree of self confidence you possess at this very moment in time is the culmination of A)how you currently perceive yourself, B) how other (influential) people perceive you, and C) how you respond to both yours and other's perceptions. Ultimately, all three of these items are within your control; however, there are natural and logical limitations on your level of control at any given time. So, while you can most definitely improve the way you and others see yourself in the short term, you must also be in a constant state of progress and self-improvement in order to justify any new found levels of confidence. In a nut shell, the art and science of self confidence building is a twofold campaign: seizing control of the three items listed previously while simultaneously increasing your paradigm of your place in the world and improving your life.

Self Confidence Building: Changing Your Self Perception

Improving the perception you have of yourself is relatively easy to do. The caveat is that you actually have to want to change. Most of the time, people tend to get too comfortable with where they are in life and lack the will power to make any internal adjustments or develop a new vision of themselves.

If you are at a place in your life where you honestly want to make positive changes, then it's easy to get started; simply start having more positive self dialogue and treat yourself better. The words you say inside your own mind are the most powerful words you'll ever hear. Internal dialogue directs your thinking and ultimately shapes your ideas and beliefs. Always make a point to choose self-talk that uplifts you, encourages you, and that keeps you on the path of self-actualization Anytime you hear harsh criticism from your own mind, stop it immediately and say something positive.

Self Confidence Building: Changing Other's Perception of You

The idea of changing other people's perception is somewhat of a dicey subject. On one hand, a highly confident person need not be concerned about other people's superficial opinions. On another hand, it's just plain foolish to pretend that you are immune to criticism and not influenced by other people.

One thing you definitely want to do immediately is to begin surrounding yourself with good people. People who build you up, are honest and forthright, and have your best interest at heart. Having a good solid peer group will show you where you can improve and at the same time will reinforce your already good qualities. When you surround yourself with uplifting people, you will be able to get authentic feedback about self-improvement and the things you need to change. It's extremely great resource if you are able to embrace this genuine feedback and use it to your advantage.

Just as important as surrounding yourself with positive people is ridding yourself of negative people. If you are at the point in your life where you do not feel highly independent and are not as confident as you would like to be, you absolutely must make a point to limit negative influences. Toxic people will only pull you down and should be avoided at all cost!

*On a side note: Once you reach a high level of strength and abundance, you may find that you get a great deal of satisfaction from having a constructive influence on negative people. Just make sure you are at a point in your life where being around negative people is pragmatic.*

Self Confidence Building: Responding to Perceptions

Of course you cannot surround yourself with positive well-intentioned people 100% of the time. If you are to become the person you wish to be, you must be able to accept the fact that not everybody on Earth is going to like you. Humans innately tend to be judgmental and cliquish; occasionally we can be quite rude and condescending. When faced with such nonsense, you simply cannot allow it to affect the way you feel about yourself. Simply remove your emotions from your dealings with overly spiteful judgmental people and allow them to have whatever opinion they may. Move on to bigger better things and continue to live your life fully.

Self Confidence Building: Raising Your Standards

If you wish to have an improved perception of yourself be it yours and others, you must raise the bar for the way you live! It's simply not practical for anybody, especially YOU, to see a truly great person if you choose to live in perpetual mediocrity. If you wish to be viewed highly and feel the self confidence that comes with that view, you must continuously strive for self-actualization and greatness. Of course, everybody has a different opinion of what greatness is but people generally know greatness when they see it. Be the person who is honest and true to their word. Take action when you know you need to take action. Follow your plans and pursue your dreams passionately. Don't hesitate to stand tall for your ideals, ethics, and principles. And never stop getting back up. A very large and magnificent world awaits those who are confident, alive, and courageous!